…Although I’m definitely not a fan of psychology along with the fact that psychologists have a very high suicide rate when compared to the percentages within various types of occupations, there have been many studies about the Narcissistic Personality Disorder, that I simply don’t agree with.
Before we delve into this subject, I must remind you that “back in the day,” people were simply called nuts, crazy, an as*hole, violent, self-centered or whatever, and we didn’t have all of these fabricated conditions like bi-polar, narcissism, and so on.
However, since this is such a big deal to many folks, I’m going straight to Wikipedia and will not only provide a definition for this narcissistic condition, I will also critique each listed symptom of it, as there are quite a few…
If you are wondering what the purpose of this post is, well, it is simply because I think a lot of people get bad “names & titles” for things that they shouldn’t, as well as my detestation for folks that try to always blame the person with leadership qualities and say how it is wrong to be in control and responsible for your own actions, even if aggression and boldness is required. Oh, I don’t have the audacity to write this? Ha! Who are you kidding…
One last justification for this post: The reason why this scribbling is entitled “The parallel of order within “Narcissistic Personality Disorder” is simply because, to me, I find that many of the so-called symptoms of this psychologically labelled disorder, actually covers good traits that shouldn’t be frowned upon. If the world didn’t have these qualities, I can only imagine what an even more weak, pathetic state mankind would be in. Besides, what is Yin without the Yang? Now lets continue…
Wikipedia states: “Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a personality disorder in which the individual is described as being excessively preoccupied with issues of personal adequacy, power, prestige and vanity. This condition affects one percent of the population. First formulated in 1968, it was historically called megalomania, and it is closely linked to egocentrism.”
Okay, now, they list 14 primary symptoms of this “disorder,” and I will critique each symptom in a numerological order, below:
Symptoms of this disorder include…
1) Reacting to criticism with anger, shame, or humiliation – Really? How many folks react poorly to honest reviews and opinions? This just concerns narcissistic people? I see it all the time on this site, for example. If you don’t believe me, just go to the forums or the comment sections within various blogs and the ones found within certain Q & A sections. Offline, I see that most folks don’t take too kindly to criticism and this often boils down to how they respond, whether it is cry, pout, become mute, get mad, etc., but the last time I checked, they called that an “emotional response,” which is sort of hard to not have, albeit the last symptom listed here (#14), sort of contradicts such things – via Wikipedia, of course.
2) Taking advantage of others to reach their own goals – Well, although this is commonplace amid society, I can’t say that this is a very good trait. However, being a cheat and/or a con artist wouldn’t have to relate to a “disorder” would it, or is that just what they call folks that like to “play the game and/or system?” Manipulating the Disability Benefits and Welfare System would also apply here, so does that mean that all of those people are “narcissistic bums?”
3) Exaggerating their own importance, achievements, and talents – I see this all over the place! They used to call this pretentious trait a “wanna-be” and also a “charlatan” along with simple terms like ‘faker’ and ‘fraud’ and whatnot.
4) Imagining unrealistic fantasies of success, beauty, power, intelligence, or romance – Ah, yes… This is what we call dreaming and fantasizing about better things, and to think they call this a “disorder?”
5) Requiring constant attention and positive reinforcement from others – Although this particular symptom is quite sickening, although common, I can’t say that it would relate to narcissism. I mean, if you are that weak and in need of constant reassurance, how can you be a narcissistic being, as it seems that you mainly lack confidence among other things.
6) Becoming jealous easily – Wow! So it is a disorder to expect devotion in a relationship or to contemplate over whether or not you are a top priority in somebody’s life or something? Besides, ain’t most people prone to a little jealousy every now and then, during a normal life span? If so, does that mean that the majority is narcissistic? WTF?
7) Lacking empathy and disregarding the feelings of others – Back in the day, they used to call ‘em a-holes and disrespecting _____ (fill in the blank). No big deal, well, at least not a disorder by any means. This is the opposite of a tree hugging hippie that worries about stepping on an ant, so what gives?
Being obsessed with oneself – I must say, that there are many people with problems in this area. On the same note, if you don’t take care of yourself (What does “finding self” mean?), nothing else matters and you can’t trust anybody better than you can trust yourself. However, out of all the symptoms thus far, self-centered obsession is one that does seem to remain consistent with the definitions of narcissistic beings. Okay, fine then, I’ll give ‘em one point for symptom number 8 (The only 1 out of 14 symptoms, ha!)…
9) Pursuing mainly selfish goals – This is yet another symptom of narcissism that I just simply don’t understand. How in the hell can you have goals for yourself without being selfish? I could type paragraphs about the asininity of this one, but I’ll move on instead…
10) Trouble keeping healthy relationships – As high as the divorce rates are of today (not counting all the endless break-ups of common relationships), they blame this on a “disorder” now? What a joke!
11) Becoming easily hurt and rejected – Many soft-hearted people with low self-esteem fall under this category, as I’d hardly relate it to narcissistic ways. I’m starting to question this whole psychology behind narcissism, eh?
12) Setting goals that are unrealistic – Hey, there is nothing wrong with aiming high. I’d rather shoot high and miss, than not aim high enough when I could have landed in a much better position.
13) Wanting “the best” of everything – Well, my gawd! Is it better to want “the worst” of everything?
14) Appearing unemotional – They used to call this “apathy” and it is also a typical symptom of being jaded with life in general due to being worn out or from overuse, but I’d hardly narrow it down to one certain type of personality disorder for the wanna-be psychologists to pinpoint, ya know?
Conclusion: I don’t know about y’all, but the next time anybody calls me a narcissistic being, I’m going to say “thank you!” Ha!
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